When one door closes, another one opens. Don’t dwell to long on what was behind the closed door. If there is no door, then create one. We might not know what is behind that door, but if we won’t try to enter it, we will never know.
This week I have formally resigned from my job and paved my way for a long awaited career break. Freeing up space and capacity to start something new sounds very exciting, but it can be overwhelming and scary. Maybe things will work out, maybe they won’t. But I will not know until I try. The scholarship is certainly contributing to the thought process and reflection. It not only pushes me to ask questions, but more importantly to seek answers and take actions.
It is interesting to see reactions of different people when I tell them “I am leaving”. Some people get excited and see it as a great opportunity; others think that especially in this uncertain world it is madness. For a while, I have looked at it from this angle too. I was filled with fear, and I would be dishonest if I would say that I no longer am. What certainly helps is speaking with likeminded people. I am fortunate enough to be surrounded by adventurous, open minded and positive people. What also helps is instead of thinking about the uncertainty and what can go wrong, is to pause. By pausing I mean just stop thinking about all the “what ifs”... even if it is just for a day and start a day with shifting the focus on positive thoughts. Positive thoughts generate positive emotions and bring excitement.
I thought about the freedom I will have to try something new; I thought about all the new people I would meet on my journey; I thought about the opportunities that will open about which I possibly would not have imagined; I thought about the new skills I would learn; about the new ways of thinking that this experience would bring me.
During the process I have noticed, that there will always be people sharing similar vision, or perhaps would want to take similar steps, but who are not in a position to do so. What I also noticed is that people are actually forthcoming. Whilst some just listen to you and shake their heads, others actively offer you a house; a conversation over coffee; introductions to someone with a similar vision or even a bed in their house to let you figure out what is that exactly you are doing.
New beginnings, not knowing the outcome and uncertainty is always scary. Progress comes only if we get outside our comfort zone. This can be unpleasant, but it can also be rewarding. Focussing on the rewards, on the new beginnings rather than focussing on all the things that would be lost will generate positive feelings, hope and excitement.
Two years ago, wandering in the fields on a rainy Sunday morning at Glastonbury, I discovered a quote on the board with a powerful message about the commitment to new beginnings. The picture is on my phone and I always carry it with me as a positive reminder.